I was complaining to my husband a few months ago about how I never feel like exercising does anything for me physically. It helps me a lot with feeling better & staying positive mentally, but I never seem to tone up how I want & have the physical rewards I felt like should come with exercising.
That’s when my husband said, “I hope this doesn’t hurt your feelings & please don’t take it the wrong way, but you honestly never exercise long enough to see the benefits of it.”
Ouch. It stung a little. Won’t lie. But he was so right. I have been on again, off again with exercise the last 5 years. One of the main reasons is because I would beat myself up because I wasn’t doing enough, running hard enough, lifting enough weights, and on & on & on. You see, exercise was a battle. It wasn’t a relationship or even a way of life. I could not get over the mental hump that could get me to a positive place about it all.
I wore myself out so much mentally that exercising wasn’t fun. If you don’t allow yourself to have the patience to get where you want to go then you won’t ever be able to achieve your long term goals.
After my husband said that to me, after I read a life altering statement, & I focused on the process of reaching my goals instead of what I wanted from exercising I was able to have fun AND I’ve been going strong for almost 12 weeks with no end in sight.
I read that after 4 weeks of exercise you will notice a difference about yourself & the way you look, in 8 weeks friends & family will see a difference & in 12 weeks everyone will see the change. Let me tell you, it’s been almost 12 weeks, I’m down 15+ pounds, my legs are looking amazing, I have ab definition again, I’m running more miles than ever, I’m smiling more, managing stress better & I’m thrilled with how far I’ve come! I am literally excited for the next workout.
So, the next time your spouse or a loved one is complaining, it might not be such a bad idea to give them some constructive criticism.
It might just change their life.