Since I started this project in November, I have been doing a ton of research on how to dress & look nicer on a regular basis. I have spent my time scouring Pinterest, reading beauty books & magazines, paying to attention to what other women are wearing while out & about, you name it, I’ve been doing what I can to learn as much as possible.
In the mornings, I now spend a few minutes making sure I get my face washed, some makeup put on, & my hair to look nice (it’s not always styled every day, but it always looks put together.) I have collected enough staple closet items so that I can walk to my closet & see what is hanging up & be able to grab, get dressed, & go (instead of picking up wrinkled, wadded up clothes from the bottom of my closet.)
With all that being said, I’m still a mother to a 1 & almost 4 year old. Translation, I’m still going to discover food somewhere on my clothes, I am still overwhelmed trying to get myself & 2 kids ready for the day, my house literally looks like a time bomb went off, etc, etc. I may look put together once I arrive somewhere, but I definitely don’t feel it all the time.
It doesn’t matter how good you look everyday because….
You’re still going to find apple slices buried within the collar of your jacket, no matter how chic the jacket.
Icee will still end up all over you & if you’re lucky you will have worn white that day & the icee will be red.
Your jewelry is found sprinkled throughout the house because the baby managed to find it all & drag it every where she crawled.
Said baby will also discover a tube of lipstick you didn’t even know you had anymore & get it all over the bottom of her diaper & you will pick her up, put her in your lap, & hours later discover you are covered in bright red lipstick (not even the dry cleaner could get it out!!)
I have to remember that I’m a mom, take it all in stride, know that it makes for a funny story, in the long run $60 ruined jeans will not matter as long as my children are happy & healthy, & most importantly, this time in my life is only temporary. So what are my priorities? Being “pretty” all day or my children knowing that I loved them first, my clothing second.
I don’t want my kids to remember me as the mom who was afraid to get dirty in the backyard or who wouldn’t get her hair wet at the swimming pool all because she didn’t want her “polished & styled” look to go away.
So when I realize I’m spending too much time in the morning getting ready or stressing over my clothes getting dirty, I remind myself to keep my priorities…don’t let makeup routines take up the whole day so that we don’t make it to the park. Don’t let fixing my hair be more important than watching a cartoon or reading a book to one of my kids. It’s easy to forget, but it’s a balance I’m working on day in & day out.